6 ways to ensure video games are safe for children
How to protect your children from extreme violence on their computer screens
1. Always check the age classification of a game and its subsections of content: violence, bad language, fear, etc.
2. Research the game and, ideally, play it yourself.
3. Play with your children, talking to them about which games they play on their own and which they play with their friends.
4. Online games can involve downloading extra content – this needs to be monitored.
5. Online computer games (also multi-player aspects of console games) involve interacting with other unknown players. Stress the importance of not disclosing personal information.
6. Many higher-rated games have some sort of parental lock or control for levels of blood, gore and intensity. Use it!
12 ways to encourage healthy eating
Fiona McDonald Joyce explains how to encourage a healthy attitude to food from an early age
1. Relax. There is little more infuriating than the sight of a plate of carefully steamed organic salmon and broccoli being smeared over the side of a high chair by a disdainful toddler. Learn to shrug it off. You have done your job, providing them with a nutritious meal. One of these days they might just eat it.
2. Don’t praise or scold your child too heavily if they eat or don’t eat, and avoid insisting or overly encouraging that they finish what is on their plate. Let them stop eating when they have had enough (even if that seems at odds with your expectations) so that you don’t override their instinctive appetite control, which could lead to issues surrounding over-eating when they are older.
3. Make a treat just that – something to be enjoyed now and again, rather than a prerequisite for the end of each meal. You are responsible for setting their expectations.
4. Don’t ban foods. It is impossible to keep your child ignorant of the delights of chips or chocolate for ever, so relax your standards a little where you cannot control your child’s diet, lest they realise that you are actively withholding something that everyone else is enjoying. It will only make it seem more attractive and could store up resentment.
5. Don’t give up. It could take as many as 10 different taste exposures for your child to accept a new flavour. If they turn their nose up at cauliflower, try it again next week. And the week after.
6. Go with the flow. Give the child as much autonomy as safety and the social occasion permit – if your toddler wants to practise their pouring skills on a bowl of lukewarm soup, let them. Recognise that playing with food constitutes messy play, a crucial part of every child’s development and not simply poor table manners.
7. Calibrate their palette. This is the perfect and once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to shape your child’s taste buds. If you want to give them a treat, make it dark chocolate (high in cocoa solids, antioxidants and iron), rather than sugary, milk-chocolate confectionary. Equally, throw finely chopped watercress or spinach into their scrambled eggs or baked beans – they don’t know that Heinz doesn’t add green leafy veg to every can.
8. Set a good example by eating with your child. Not only is it more sociable, it is also proven to encourage them to eat foods that they may otherwise have spurned. A study published in 2008 in the journal Preventive Medicine suggested that parents can increase the amount of fruits and vegetables their children eat simply by eating more themselves.
9. Smile if you want them to eat broccoli. A study published in the journal Obesity showed that children’s desire to eat a particular food was influenced by the emotions displayed by other people eating that same food. This worked even if the child actively disliked a food. Seeing someone who appeared to enjoy it made them more open to trying it.
10. Get them involved. Let your child help you to prepare a meal. It may be messy and slow, but it is one of the best ways to encourage them to eat the results.
11. Encourage conscious eating. Mindless mealtimes in front of the television can distract your child from the task in hand or result in overeating as they ignore their brain’s satiety signal. You can also promote healthy digestion by letting your child rest after lunch. If they don’t have a nap at this time, encourage quiet time by looking at books or leaving them to play in their room.
12. Ring the changes. I like my son to eat eggs for breakfast, as they are an excellent source of protein, iron, zinc and B vitamins. Serve them every day, however, and my carefully poached eggs can end up on the floor. Now I serve them every other day and the plate is cleared.
6 ways to make more time for your children
Life in 21st-century Britain is now so hectic that half of parents admit to feeling too worn out to teach their children basic life skills such as tying their shoelaces, riding a bike and telling the time. Naomi Richards, life coach and author of The Parent’s Toolkit, suggests ways for parents to make time for their children
• Leave housework until the children are in bed or when they are at school.
• Use mealtimes together to discuss things such as spellings or the months of the year.
• When walking to the park or shops, take the opportunity to teach your child about how to cross the road safely.
• Try brushing your teeth together to show them how best to do it. The same goes for tying your shoelaces.
• Show them how to lay the table and then ask them to do it while you prepare the meal. Children love to do the same thing as their parent when they are young.
• As for reading, take it in turns for them to read to you – and then you to read to them.
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